Dear reader, it’s okay to feel.
Forget everything you’ve ever been told about trying to get over some one quickly or ‘you just need to move on’ because the truth of the matter is that you don’t. Let all those raw emotions hit you, FEEL them, live them, breathe them. “The best way to get over someone is to get under someone” is the biggest lie you’ll ever hear.
No. Turn off that romantic comedy you’re watching, put all your romance novels to once side and just think about it. You’ve been through a lot, and don’t listen to anyone who says ‘are you still not over them?’ take all the time you need.
Don’t be scared of that empty, numb feeling that you’re feeling right now.. because at least you’re acknowledging it. Don’t try to push it all away because, in the end, it’s only going to come back and bite you in the arse.
Embrace every heart breaking tear and every painful second passing where you think ‘how am I going to deal with this?’ because the truth of the matter is that you will. You’ll reach a point where you’ve forgotten all about the hurt, and you’re suddenly back to yourself, maybe even happier.
It’s okay to still think about all the good times you shared, it’s okay to be upset by them or to find yourself smiling about them with tears running down your cheeks. Don’t forget them, because they’re still a part of helping you become the person that you’re going to be.
Throw out the old pity party and don’t run away from your feelings anymore, you’re just making it worse. Honey, you can do it. You can move on.